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A Journey Through Grief
© Copyright Lotus ~ July 7th, 2004

It is my hope and prayer that as you read along, you may find comfort and strength to help recapture hope. The answers are never simple but as you explore and reflect on the following, may you find the courage to help heal your spirit enabling you to make your way through whatever darkness you may face. The way a society responds to death is very often the same way society tends to respond to other major transitions. Many people do not have an easy time acknowledging endings and the dynamics of grief can often leave mourners feeling isolated. We have very few "active" rituals that are endorsed allowing us a place to honor and acknowledge our pain and loss. Rituals can be powerful tools giving us the opportunity to participate and instead of feeling utterly helpless and passive, we are able to take some control back.

There is no one who escapes the wound of mortality for the shadows of suffering make their presence known to us at some point in time. For those of us who have journeyed through grieving, we realize mourning is a long arduous journey. When mourning arrives, the pain is intolerable and the lights go out. Engulfed in desolation and grief stricken with many challenges to overcome, it is very easy to neglect ourselves. Faith often collapses and the foundation of our belief system is rocked to the core as we enter the land of despair. Pain, confusion and loss shatter our lives in millions of little pieces, with no rhyme or reason and sometimes, no purpose. Numbness, shock and little glimmer of hope leave us wondering if we will ever awake from this unbearable nightmare. But we can. We all have the capacity to return to life, to experience joy once more and to face the world with renewed strength and optimism.

Grief is not an orderly process it has an agenda of its own. The rhythm of the process differs for each of us so please do not ever measure your mourning to that of another. "Creator, whether the path be easy or difficult, pleasurable or painful help us fear not for the workings of the mind and spirit are inexorably intertwined.”

Common Myths about Grief Myth - Grief and mourning are the same experience… The majority of people tend to use the words grief and mourning synonymously. However there is an important distinction between them.

Grief - thoughts and feelings that are experienced within oneself upon the death of someone loved. They are the internal meaning given to the experience of bereavement.

Mourning - is taking that internal experience of grief and expressing it outside of oneself. Grief and mourning are much more than words. Experiencing these thoughts and feelings is often a movement through unfamiliar territory embraced by an overwhelming sense of pain and loss. We need to encourage people to express their grief outwardly in the presence of loving family and friends.

Myth - There is a predictable and orderly stage-like progression to the experience of mourning. Attempts have been made to assume there are "stages of grief" perhaps to help replace the fear and lack of understanding. Each person's grief is unique! Just as people drop their robes in different ways, people’s emotional bleeding created by a grief wound is distinctly unique. Expecting anything less would demonstrate a lack of respect for the authenticity of each person.

Myth - It is best to move away from grief instead of toward it. The unfortunate reality is that too often we do not give ourselves permission or receive permission to mourn. The result, many people grieve in isolation or tend to run away from their grief. It is only through the process of moving toward pain that we can eventually move toward healing. We really never get over our grief, but with time, we become reconciled to it and learn that pain and grief are a necessary part of life and living. Sometimes what we understand at our "head" level is more difficult to resolve at our "heart" level. Allowing ourselves to grieve in whatever ways needed can bring gentle comforts. While it’s true, these comforts may not erase our pain, they can help ease our pain.

Myth - Following the death of a loved one, the goal is to "get over" your grief … Thinking or believing that we, as human beings, get over our grief is ludicrous! For the mourner to assume life will be exactly as it was is unrealistic. Everyone is changed by the experience of a death. Reconciliation may be more expressive of what occurs as we begin working towards integrating the new reality of moving forward in life without the physical presence of the person who died. The unfolding is a long process not an event as the pain changes from being ever-present to acknowledged feelings of loss. Our sense of loss does not disappear but softens as the intense pangs of grief ease and hope emerges once again.

Myth - Tears expressing grief are only a sign of weakness … Unfortunately many people associate tears of grief with personal inadequacy and weakness. Crying often helps generate feelings of helplessness. Crying is nature's way of releasing internal tension in the body and allows the mourner to communicate a need to be comforted. I think of crying as a way of releasing pent up feelings.

Myth - Feelings of anger and guilt are improper and should not be exhibited ... These emotions are neither right nor wrong, they are simply part of how you are feeling. They are a normal healthy response to loss. The amount of strength and ability it takes to survive this intense pain is a tribute to the human spirit and should help us remember our spirit is truly invincible.

Why I don't know why this happened, perhaps I never will. I don't really have to know why I don't like this! There are no answers to appease or comfort me I am weary and empty inside. I must learn how to recapture life's precious existence; so I have decided, what I have to do is make a choice about my living what I want to do is accept and go on living. I know the choice is mine as impossible as that seems right now, I know I can go on. I want to laugh and live again valuing every moment, not to be destroyed by grief. I want to cherish every moment like never before knowing life is tenuous and valuable and death does not wait. So I am choosing to go on living; making the most of the time I have left; embracing, cherishing and loving life in a way never before possible.

So many questions enter our minds when we are thrust into darkness. Why is God/Great Spirit/Allah/Creator/Goddess [or whatever name feels right to you] deliberately inflicting suffering on me? Why do bad things happen to good people? What have I done to deserve this? Why me? These questions can seldom be answered. Trying to cope with death, or suffering an injustice or misfortune can influence our quality of life. And when death knocks on our door, at that very moment, a part of us feels broken. One day we are happy go lucky and in the blink of an eye, our whole life falls apart. Our belief that life is orderly and predictable dies, and we cling to the “Whys.” But there are no answers. No one can offer us a satisfactory explanation as to the “WHY.” If we can set aside our “academic knowledge” and reflect on the possibility that everything is laid out for us and even though the path may sometimes be invisible, or blurred, the path remains straight ahead. This “knowing” brings me comfort creating a better understanding of Spirit’s unfolding and draws me closer in a relationship with the Creator. If we can find meaning in life, we are better able to cope with pain and suffering.

Expressing Your Truth
The pain of losing a loved one whether spouse, child, parent, sibling or friend can take over our life. Stress becomes a great influence on our well-being and it is important to look after our physical, as well as our emotional, mental and spiritual health. When sorrow comes, no one can take our place in suffering and it is not unusual to find ourselves encountering the following …
your grief will take longer than most people think it should your grief will take more energy than you can imagine your grief will involve continual changes your grief will make its presence known in your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual life. your may find yourself grieving for many things, symbolic and tangible your grief will involve a variety of feelings and reactions you may experience waves or upsurges of grief without warning.

Self-Care
When you are grieving, looking after your physical and emotional self is extremely important. This is often forgotten when we are under stress. We may find ourselves weary with little energy. We may feel hyperactive, agitated, unable to sleep or concentrate, angry, or sad, all of these things can have a great influence on our mind, body and spirit. Here are some comforts that do not necessarily erase our pain but do ease the journey of grief. Insomnia is common to grieving...go to bed and rise at the same time each day. This can help you reset your time clock and re-establish a routine. Use your bedroom for sleeping only and nap elsewhere. Keep your room temperatures warm rather than hot or cold. Drink only herbal teas or decaffeinated beverages for at least 5 hours prior to bedtime. A glass of warm milk can also help induce sleep.

Music is a magnificent healing tool. It has amazing power to touch the essence of our spirit, bringing soothing and a healing comfort to weary souls A hug, a hand being held, a gentle embrace...the power of touch, calming, caring, can also be healing. Massages are also very comforting as are other hands-on therapies. Some form of exercise is also vital and can often help improve our mood. Being close to nature, our world is breathtakingly beautiful, even in pain we can marvel at the beauty of each season, a rainbow being painted across the skies, sounds and sites that call to us. Give yourself simple pleasures, a bubble bath, an ice cream cone, a funny movie, or whatever moves you. Although simple pleasures offer no solutions, they too provide relief. Express your anger in healthy ways, if you feel like yelling, do so, want to stomp your feet, go ahead and if punching a pillow helps, then by all means go for it. Try keeping a journal nearby and jot down your thoughts and feelings. Honor your emotions by releasing negative energy. A more difficult task is finding the courage to express and live your truth. Talk, talk, and talk some more. A listening ear, a place to open our hearts and know we will be heard. Find supportive people who will listen to you. Share your concerns with your family physician, it is important to have an honest relationship with your doctor. Do not be afraid to ask for help.

HOPE Grief is a journey we take from the person we use to be to the person we become. There is always room for hope in all of us. By opening ourselves to receive we begin to find the strength within to rediscover our spirit. Hope is a journey towards mending our hearts and so every breath we take is a reminder of the spirit of hope and the gift of life. To often we are so preoccupied with our loss it can be difficult to see the blessings around us. The Spirit world is all around us. Is it too far-fetched to believe that our deceased loved ones and other Spirit Helpers can be a source of comfort and strength to us? Having experienced Spirit Companions on many occasions, I now know quite clearly death is not final but merely a continuation.

Near restful waters we will meet again!

Children & Grandparents Grieve too
"Death...is no more than passing from one room into another. But there is a difference for me, you know. Because in that other room I shall be able to see." - Helen Keller How a Child Deals with Loss Thousands of children are affected by the loss of a loved one and also by separation and/or divorce. We all need comfort during painful dark nights, something to hold on to and as loving parents, we do our best to ensure that our children's childhood is the happiest time of their life. Death is a crisis for everyone when it arrives especially for the children. Unlike adults, they are vulnerable and poorly equipped to deal with the flood of emotions that accompany grief. So often it is thought that because children are resilient, that death is less traumatic for them, this is a myth! If anything, children are in many ways most affected by a death.

After a death, children may feel confused, abandoned and above all frightened wandering who is going to die next especially if they have lost a parent. Children need to be told of a loss by loved ones in familiar surroundings in as clear and direct a manner as possible. Although being honest and specific may sound harsh in the beginning, in the end it is ultimately kinder. It helps children realize that death is definite. Making up a story to ease children's grief will seldom bring comfort and may only bring confusion. When children ask about death, tell them honestly that death is truly a mystery that no one really understands. Many experts believe that children should not be shielded from death. That children need to know that adults are there to hear their concerns and fears and to help them sort out their perceptions and feelings about death. Do not assume that children should always be happy, help teach them to honor their feelings and to know it is okay to feel sad and to cry. What children perceive and experience may be different than the adults around them. Find a way to help them communicate their thoughts. Sometimes we feel it is so important to protect our children from grief but this is a time when the child should be included in at least some of the preparations. If the child is old enough, give her/him the opportunity to decide whether or not to attend the funeral or other rituals. If the child decides not to attend, please honor your child's decision. Never force a child to do something that she/he really does not want to do. Perhaps you can help your child create a special ritual, this is sometimes helpful as rituals are very suited to children.

Since our greatest task on earth is preparing our children for the real world, it is important to try and help prepare our children for loss including divorce or separation. If we can help our children learn how to cope with grief while we are still an active presence in their lives, we can offer them the love, support and guidance they need. Whatever the situation to which you are called try to respond with extreme love and care. Take time to talk to your children, listen to what they say, and hear what they are not saying.

Death of a Child
My work as a spiritual advisor, grief counselor and bereaved parent allows me the opportunity and privilege of working with grieving families. Whenever I am with parents who are mourning the loss of their child, I am always deeply touched by their journey as they struggle to heal and bring restoration back into their lives. The parent-child relationship is unlike any other. It is closer and more involved requiring much time and energy yet more precious and harder to lose. Parental grief is particularly intense with the death of a child. Mourning is complicated and the most long-lasting grief of all. It is easy to lose hope when we have suffered a crushing blow. What is not so easy is the belief that things can and will get better as the intensity of our grief subsides. It seems incomprehensible that we will ever find comfort and joy again. It is true, life will never again be the same but we can find happiness once more and look forward to the future. Throughout the years, it has become apparent to me when parents are involved with some or all of the funeral preparations, this can become the catalyst to help the journey of healing begin. Not only does this bring a sense of reality and interaction, it can be empowering at a time when everything else seems out of control. It has taken me a long time to understand for every task that arrives, we are given the tools. Be ever ready for unseen miracles, for they arrive in the most unusual ways.

Some deaths of children are less recognized by society, deaths of unborn infants by miscarriage or stillbirth and even the death of a newborn, often are not considered to be as serious as the loss of an older child. Even abortions have their toll, whether elective or therapeutic, they still involve the loss of a child. SIDS is often a major crisis for a bereaved family with so many unresolved emotions surfacing. As with other types of bereavement, we need to understand that each of these losses needs to be acknowledged, validated, embraced and grieved. Parents need to be encouraged to talk about their baby’s brief life and death.

Grieving parents have told me that naming their baby was incredibly important. It brought comfort and was a reminder of having carried that child. They also felt as I do, if possible, it is equally valuable to see your baby. If you feel comfortable hold and embrace your child taking the time to say goodbye. Asking for a footprint or lock of hair or even taking pictures may ease your heart although this may seem gruesome to others. Listen to what your heart tells you and follow your instincts.

Death of a Grandchild
When a grandchild dies, there is an overwhelming sense of grief that crashes down on grandparents. It is a sorrow that is compounded because grandparents grieve twice. The most immediate is of course the loss of their grandchild. There is a sense of disruption and unfairness...a natural feeling that the continuity through generations has been disrupted. This death is a radical rearrangement as to how life should unfold. The second is the pain of witnessing their own child grieving. As parents, we were always able to comfort and ease the pain and hurt our child experienced but now a bandaid or a kiss will not work. The only way is to accompany them on this journey of grief. How easy it is to be selective in our understanding of others. When something terrible happens to our child, or grandchild, we blame ourselves regardless of the facts.

Stephen Levine, author of “Who Dies? An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying” writes that the death of a child is a fire in the mind. His words ring true in my heart. No other death seems so unnatural for we expect children to outlive us. Is it any wonder that this flame cannot be extinguished for many years? In time the flame will become an ember but until that happens, I encourage all who read this to be sensitive to the needs of mourners. Your honest sorrow may help open the door to facilitate their grief. For those of you wondering how you can help: Be there...don't worry about finding the right words. Opt for simplicity... I'm sorry, a hug or a gentle touch. Don't presume that you can provide an explanation or a quick fix. Bereaved people need to talk about their loss so offer a compassionate and safe-listening ear. Don't be afraid to mention the name of the child. Acknowledge birthdays or death anniversaries with a visit or a card. Since grief affects people's physical ability, offer to help out in some way. Rather than say "call if you need something" [they won't] say "I will call tomorrow to see if you need anything" [please remember to follow through on that call] Include grandparents in social events even though they may decline the first few. Remember that grief changes life, so offer your support "long term."

Rituals – Powerful & Healing Rituals provide us with an outlet and offer an opportunity to recall loved ones providing a focus for our grief. Anniversaries and special occasions are undoubtedly tough days to get through. Finding a ritual to honor your loved one brings comfort and a feeling of “doing” something.

Some suggestions that others have shared with me:
Make a contribution or have a bursary given in your child’s name
On their special day, do something thoughtful for another
Have a celebration to honor their life and invite loved ones and friends to share the memories.

Name a star, plant a tree, flowers or a shrub in their honor
Have a birthday cake and light a special candle
Start a collection of something they were fond of and add to it each anniversary.
Create a memory box.
I have a friend who dedicated a bench in the park her daughter loved to visit.

As you can see there are many options that can be a reminder of your loved one’s life here on earth. Grief is unique, just as we are so in choosing a ritual find something that speaks to your spirit and about the spirit of your loved one.

This article wouldn't be complete with including divorce and separation.
Separation/Divorce
An increasing number of children are experiencing the divorce of their parents or litigation of their custody. Some children experience the intensive often unconscious or unintended, attempt of one parent to alienate the child from their other parent. Children have no choice in the matter of a divorce or death, nor do they have a choice in the events that follow. This powerlessness interferes with their confidence and sense of security. Children, like adults, need to feel they have choice and control in their lives. Many children assume they, in some way, were responsible for the loss of their parent. They believe their "bad behavior" was the reason, or they were so "unlovable" their parent wouldn't stay. To soothe a child's feelings of guilt, adults must provide them with straightforward, non-judgmental information about what is happening. Children do not need to hear the "gruesome" details.

Gary Neuman says, "When you criticize your ex, you criticize your child." Gary explains that it's the conflict between parents, not the actual divorce that puts children at risk. Many parents don't realize the consequences of their actions, no matter how big or small. It's important to emphasize to your child she/he is in no way to blame for the breakup. Children are very good at keeping their deepest feelings hidden from their parents. Even in the best divorces, children feel that they are somehow responsible for the break-up. Please Remember All litigation concerning children can affect their healthy growth and development. It is psychologically harmful to children to be deprived of a healthy relationship with one parent. With the exception of abuse, there is no good reason why children should not want to spend some time with each of their parents. Alienating messages and behavior, whether intentional or not, places children in a severe loyalty bind, a position wherein the child believes she/he must chose which of her/his two parents to "love" more. Having to choose between parents is unfair and damaging to the child, and, if the end result is the exclusion of a parent from the child's life, the injury is irreparable.

Hints for Parents
Let your children know you both will always love them and be their parents.
Don't be long distance parents. If you must live in another town, stay in touch with frequent letters, via e-mail or snail mail and telephone calls.
Make sure your child has your address and telephone number so they will always have easy access to you.
Show your love in actions, not just words.
Don't make promises you cannot keep. Promises not kept are worse than not making plans at all.
Don't attempt to substitute your love with money or gifts. Kids know when they are being bought off.
Remember birthdays, holidays and all other important events. This indicates to your children that you are there and you care. It may be difficult to remember these dates in your busy life, so use a calendar and mark them down.
Don't “ badmouth” your ex-spouse or anyone else in the family and hold children to this rule. Children will not love you more if you attempt to make your ex the bad one in their eyes. This only makes it difficult for them, and at some point they will more than likely resent you for your attacks.
Children need to feel it is okay to love both parents without making anyone unhappy.
It's a major red flag when children are afraid to express affection towards one parent in front of the other.
When you are angry with one another, PLEASE do not take it out on the children.
"Never" put your children in the middle and do NOT make children the mediator for you and your spouse.
Trying to obtain information about your ex-spouse's private life through your children, is completely unacceptable and unfair to your children.
Don't compete for your children's love. They need and want a healthy relationship with both parents.
Be understanding and patient.
Children may feel anger, sadness and depressed following a divorce. Be open and willing to listen to their thoughts and feelings.
"Accept" that this relationship is over and proceed with your life.
The best thing you can do for yourself and your children is to move forward, to begin living again.

It’s hard to trust when we have been hurt and it is hard to hope when we have known tragedy. In order to heal, we must discover our own passage through the “Gates of Loss” facing each day
with an open heart. In time our wounded spirits begin to heal but that healing is never as complete as we would like. As we journey away from pain, we discover how strong the human spirit is, far stronger that we could have ever imagined.

COMMUNITY COMMENTS

2CrowWoman:
I buried a grief in 1973, being too young to really understand it. I ended up mourning in the middle of 2001 after a TV show (Babylon 5 of all things!) triggered a latch and opened the door. It was a shattering and yet highly productive few months and during that time I did something that eventually changed me and others as well. Mourning can be more productive than anyone realizes. The only problem is when people become accustomised to mourning and fear letting it go. I met one person like this from this experience. The grief and mourning I experienced wasn't for a death so it doesn't fit your article, but it does fit your definitions. I've been through a fair share of deaths as well, ranging from health/age related to accidental and a few murders. In every single case the experience was utterly different from the others and the times I mourned and grieved utterly different as well. Still working on some of them.

Sunflower:
Wonderful article, Lotus! So much of this resonates with what my family is still going through. These last 3 months, since my brother died, have been a tough road for all of us and although the healing process has begun, there are always more feelings coming up that weren't expected and the need to deal with them just becomes overwhelming at times.

StarDreamer:
Thank you, Lotus! Wonderful article! A comment from a friend yesterday and your article have me musing on something. My friend observed that I was very "stoic" about pain and he didn't think that was necessarily a good thing, because pain was a symptom that something needed attention and healing. Pain needed to be felt and expressed for the healing to take place. Ignore it or put it on the back burner to be dealt with at an "appropriate" time and you risk the healing. I agreed with him. But my initial response was, "Yes, I'm stoic by nature." ??? I felt that was true when I said it, but now I'm wondering if anyone could be "stoic by nature." I think it's more, "stoic by nurture." You mentioned rituals in your article. Cultures down through the ages have included specific rituals for the passage of a soul to the next world. Rituals not just for the one who has passed but for those "left behind." This Western culture in which I have been brought up has none...not really. Your parent dies, you're given a day or two to "take care of things" and then you're back at work with a pat on the shoulder from one or two of the more compassionate folks, but, otherwise, it's "life goes on, ya know" and that's that. Perhaps a family may have a religious background in which grief and mourning are respected with expression in ritual, but extending that into your day-to-day life is taken as an intrusion of your beliefs into the "space" of others.

I remember the years surrounding the deaths of my parents as years of "carrying on." They
passed within two years of each other. I was a minister's wife, mother of two small children and it was a time of great turmoil in our family in many areas. I remember moving through their passing and funerals as if in a daze. Few tears were shed...I just didn't have the time...or the energy....or the *space.* One day, about nine months after the passing of my father it hit me that I was now "an orphan." I had been an only child. I had no siblings to lean on or commiserate in our grief and mourning. I, quite literally, fell apart at that realization. Life opened up to me with such a painful emptiness I could not express it. In fact, I lost connection with expression. I would look at something knowing what it was, but a totally unrelated word would come out of my mouth. I looked at the coat rack and called it an umbrella. I looked at my daughter's stuffed dog and called it a hat. I didn't realize what I was saying...that my thought and the word were not the "proper" relationship. My husband freaked. I went into therapy. I was put on medication. I went through many years of "work" on myself. I was quickly able to put coat rack with coat rack and stuffed dog with stuffed dog, but expression of my feelings is only now, 20 years later, actually beginning to take place. I look at that time now and see that I unconsciously found my own ritual of grief and mourning. And that it took place in the relationship of thought to word is very significant to me. *S* Frustrated writer that I am! I did not allow myself expression of my pain, or felt I was not allowed it...either way, it was not expressed. But it needed expression and found its way, ultimately, for my healing to take place. I see this now in a much larger picture, as well. Spirit continually moves us to healing, transformation and creation. It WILL happen...individually and corporately. The chaos that we go through, the disconnection, the grief, the pain, MUST be expressed in some way in order for the healing to come. Finding creative expression for the good of all is our responsibility, otherwise, it may result in violence, abuse, war, etc. Ritual allows that creative expression of grief symbolically....coat racks can be umbrellas and stuffed dogs, hats, for the time Spirit deems necessary for us to resolve our personal, and corporate, chaos and move forward to create. Okay, I've rambled. *S* But those are my thoughts today, FWIW

Lotus:
Sometimes we need to grieve, and it's not because someone died. It's because we are experiencing a major life-change. Some of these changes feel as bad as if a loved one died. When our kids move away from home, we get a divorce, we have a health problem that changes our way of life, our parents get a divorce, we lose a job. a pet dies, we have a miscarriage, a friend moves away . . . these (and other changes) can be biggies for many people. These are losses and affect us in different ways. I call these periods "soul work." These experiences brings lessons and growth. As for "distorted" grief, yes, sadly it can occur. Some people become immobilized by some aspect of their grief. It may result from difficult circumstances related to the death, unresolved loss issues from the past, or unhealthy dynamics in the relationship. The impact of the loss on the griever is so overwhelming that they lose their sense of perspective.

Some cultures facilitate grief much better than ours does. We don't make time for grief at all—it's nonexistent. In many cultures, death is seen as a sacred time of transition , natural rather than a tragic event. Our society is uncomfortable with grief. We say, "You'll get over it. You're going to feel better." What does that really mean? Are we saying, "I'm uncomfortable with your grief, and I wish you'd stop making me uncomfortable." Perhaps we in western societies fear death and have difficulty talking about it. In my work I see many people who are eager to get over it, some even try to by-pass grieving but it seldom brings them peace. Life ultimately is about living, knowing we will one day cross over and to fulfill the tasks which life constantly sets for each of us. StarDreamer, I honor what you are feeling and can sense the strength that is sustaining you. Your courage and willingness to work through your grief has been like a portrait in progress. I thank you for sharing that part of yourself with us.

PhoenixRising:
This board and limit experience with the members and the content has been profound for me. I am not in a position right this minute to share fully. This night I began to pray and request knowledge. I went on from there and later on I began to say the word grief over and over. I began to observe myself and some of my behavior. No word would work or fulfill me but saying out loud grief. I am grieving this is an expression of it. I was not surprised saying in general I am grieving I have been on a healing journey for a long time and have some concrete understanding of grief and the grieving process. This is different. There is so much I know about grief I want access to today. I can be open to it today. I believe there are forms of grief on a social level that manifest itself in ways we do not realize. I have watched myself and I watched health problems manifest in society and I knew it was spiritual and reflecting the times and a attitude and self image that underneath is so negative that is impacting the spirit in a harmful way. I could not see the possibility that in addition that grief/grieving might be a contibuting factor to this health crisis. Forgive me all for such abstractions. I am just opening up to stuff that has been blocked to me. I had to say thank you and I had to give voice to me waking up in ways I have not had the freedom to before this moment.

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